Beat The Blues

- Being Delightful begins with taking care of ourselves. One of the harder times to do this is after a break-up, no matter how “mutual" it may have been. So, here for your benefit are my

10(ish) Things to do After a Breakup

Crying is Therapeutic.Take a few seconds to acknowledge that the person was important to you. It’s ok to grieve the loss of that relationship, but don’t let it lead you to destructive habits (no, drinking right now is not a good call).

Find An Anthem. Pick a song that empowers you, then put it on repeat. Yes, your neighbors are tired of it, but you need it right now.

Dominate some Chocolate Chip Cookies. If you need a great recipe, I’ll send you mine. You don’t even have to bake them because cookie dough is just as awesome unbaked (disclaimer: your mom warned you about salmonella).

Bust a Move. Take a dance class, and it’s best if you drag a friend along. Even if neither of you knows what you’re doing, it’ll still be a blast. Plus, following a partner can get you out of your head. Also, look at these people, you can be this cool!

Random acts of Goodness Rock. Be altruistic and remove the focus from yourself. It’s a huge world, so take a second to think outside your bubble. So buy someone's coffee, put change in a parking meter, or just smile extra big at someone you don't know (depending on the city, this could freak them out and that's amusing too). 

    Excessive Cuddles with a Pet. If you don’t have one, borrow one… Same unconditional love and snuggles without you on poop duty…  That’s a win/win in my book. Even if your cat doesn't quite get it, they're still there for you. (Check out Schroeder!)

     Surround Yourself with Awesome People. Not the “better than you” awesome, but “make you better” awesome. They’ll be the ones you can trust to remind you who you are when you’ve forgotten.

    Put Flowers on the Nightstand. Treat yourself, and when you’re alone at night they’ll be there for you. If you have the opportunity, flower arranging is super Zen. (Rose @ Andrew's Florist hooked me up, these are glorious!)... For that matter, just go and create something. Paint, sketch, break glass for a mosaic (Highly recommend for aggressive moments), the world is at your feet. 

    Tell the Story. Not to every nosy person who asks, but to the people you trust. They’ll listen sympathetically and reassure you that it’s not your fault (which even if it’s not true, it’s still good to hear) and that you can do so much better (always true, keep moving forward!).

   Take a Drive. Just go, get away from the reminders and get in some quality "you time." Plus, you can blast your new anthem (just watch the speed limit... my lead food comes out when I'm jamming). Plus, being in PDX, both of these are just an hour or so away, which rocks my socks.

Find a Video That Makes You Smile. I'm especially fond of this charming little girl. 

Always Remember: 

 You are Timeless. The Sun rises each day to see your smile and ask your dreams from the night before as you danced with the moon and charmed the stars. The sunset yearns to reflect the unbridled imagination of your joy; and the playful breeze caresses the cheeks of humanity in a vain attempt to imitate your tenderness. You are loved, adored, cherished by each drop of rain that kisses the face of the Earth. Never forget that as you take tentative steps toward independence: Your love can change the world.

Here for you,

K